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Thursday, September 17, 2009

A Reminder.

 I'd like to share a little bit of what's been on my heart... Since I've been rather honest lately, why stop now? :)

I've been bothered lately by the "rockstar photographer" trend. Yes, you can get a decent $500 digital SLR and knock off some pretty decent family portrait sessions. I'm all good with that. You can redo those if they turn out poorly. The part that bothers me is when those same photographers jump into the event industry (which requires a completely different skill set) after taking a workshop that has made them *FABULOUS* then charge $3000-4000, with little to no experience. There is a whole new crop of photographers now marketing themselves for weddings next summer at those prices. I'm baffled. It's very deceptive to brides to discern the valid photographers who have a camera bag with $15-20k worth of gear and those who show up with a mini backpack with no backup equipment. Should something go wrong... you see where I'm going here. I've had two different $5k camera bodies die on me while in the middle of weddings. It happens. The other thing is that workshops are so different than real life photography. They give a photographer a false sense of what they're capable of doing on a wedding day. Yes, they now have a portfolio consisting of a bride. To me, that falls in the same category as family portrait sessions without the kids. Right now, one of the only workshops that I would consider a valid and worthwhile investment is Bob and Dawn's workshop on St. Simon's Island. First of all, I adore Bob and Dawn (and Sarah Skow for that matter), but secondly, this is a wedding. It's the closest thing to a real world experience in photography. Most other workshops out there prepare you to be a great portrait photographer.

I don't say this to knock the photographers out there teaching workshops or those attending them -- heck I was one of them. But documenting weddings is NOT about how many odd positions we can place a bride and groom to get a great portrait (i.e. a bride on the ground hugging the leg of her groom), how many external flashes we can set up, or how heavily we can edit a crappy photo to make it look "creative." Also... not that those are bad, but the trend has been so HEAVILY focused on those things.

Let me pose a few questions. What if you were documenting someone's last day with a parent or spouse? What will they value most? How would that change the way you shoot? This week, the gravity of this career hit me harder than it ever has before.

Two months ago, I had that wedding. You may remember Jessy and Andrew's wedding in Traverse City on the Fourth of July. I fell in love with who they were a year ago when I did their engagement session. I met the rest of the family on the wedding day and was equally as impressed. At one point, Jessy's dad, Shawn, took me aside and told me how much he valued what I did and was so thankful that I was there to capture their day. While giving Jessy away, he accidentally stepped on her cathedral length veil and pulled it out. It crushed him because he just wanted her day to be perfect. He told me later, "Man, I feel terrible." I lightly said, "Don't worry about it, it actually happens ALL the time!" Well, not maybe all the time but I think it made him feel a little better. Through the amazing toast he gave I had a better glimpse of how passionate and deliberate he was in showing his love and pride in his wife Colleen, Jessy, and their other daughter Shannon.

After the wedding Jessy and Andrew headed back to their home in Arizona. Her wedding day would be the last day she spent with her dad. Over the weekend, he unexpectedly passed away. Talking through some of this with Alicia, it became clear to me how God has woven a tapestry in Shawn's life. In His grace, He gave them the most perfect day imaginable to celebrate together. No arguments, nothing left unsaid. And on a glorious Saturday afternoon before his passing, he took Colleen aside, then Shannon and told them how much he loved them and how proud he was of them. God gave them their perfect day, too. Complete with a motorcycle ride. Deliberate. Might be one of my new most valued character traits. Going back through my photos to try and find a few to print and send... I was astounded by the sheer number of photos I took of her dad. That's all God. He knew they would need those memories to begin healing. I'm humbled and brought to tears.

This job is not about being a "rockstar photographer." It's NOT about ME.

Please pray for healing for Jessy's family. This loss is immense.

Seeing Jessy for the first time..
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Colleen, Shannon, Jessy, and Shawn
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After his toast... what I've learned is his "frown/smile."
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 Posted 9/17/2009 3:07 PM - 750 Views - 10 eProps - 12 comments

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amazing post, jen... I am writing this with tears in my eyes. (and it is not the pregnancy hormones!)

I had a very similar experience years ago - when I worked (interned in College) at Disney World. We hosted a Make-A-Wish family at my hotel (The Grand Floridian). This family was amazing, and we did everything possible to make their vacation experience at Disney an incredible one. Laura was 13, and dying of brain cancer. For five days, she had the time of her life - as did her family. She died on her way home to Chicago on their last day. A few days after her death, I received a letter from the family thanking me and the other cast members for taking care of them. (Quoting that Laura could not wait to find Walt Disney in heaven to tell him what an awesome place he had created with wonderful people)  That experience has forever stayed in my heart..I know just where you are coming from.  You don't have to be terminially ill to have an experience or wedding of a lifetime - you should be living each day like it is your last, and treating others as such. You just never, ever know. I am so glad that God made you a part of that day for that family, what a blessing. What a legacy you have left for them in pictures. You are a true photographer, a true artist, and a real person. You can't put a price on that...

Hang in there... stay true to yourself and your passion! It shines through... 

sincerely,

jen buck - graceful expressions design

Posted 9/17/2009 4:31 PM by jennifer buck (site) - recommend - reply

I couldn't agree more. It's so not about us! These are real people, real couples and their families we are documenting. I once had the uncle of a groom pass away in an accident shortly after the wedding and the family asked for a certain picture I took at the wedding because when he first saw the proofs, he mentioned that it was his favorite picture that had ever been taken of him. It was incredibly sad, but I also felt like God had really used me. I blew the photo up for them and they ended up displaying it at his memorial.

So sad to hear about the loss of this wonderful man. I'm praying for their family. What a blessing that you captured so many pictures of him.

Thanks for being real, Jen.
Posted 9/17/2009 5:15 PM by Kris Noorman (site) - recommend - reply

Jen,

A beautiful post :)
Posted 9/17/2009 5:59 PM by stephanie karen (site) - recommend - reply

Jen, such a sad story, but beautiful that he was able to be with his family. This is a really great reminder to all of us, it's not about getting the most fierce portrait! I try to remind myself often of something I read awhile ago - I try to photograph people as if it's the last way they'll ever be remembered. Emotion, real smiles, laughs, and tears. Honesty. Thank you for the reminder to try even harder. We are all trying to be the best we can, and capture these fleeting moments. Hugs to you, and prayers for his family.
Posted 9/17/2009 6:03 PM by kristen (site) - recommend - reply

Jen,
I've followed (blog-stalked) your blog, as well as other event photographers for a while now. I see in your work the care you put in to capture the feelings. I also appreciate that your work is natural (not super-trendy posing nor lots of recognizable actions) I was shocked (!) reading that rockstar photographer site!!! I would never want to hire someone who followed even one of those "rules"!!!
I'm glad there are people like you in this business, hopefully more will follow.
Posted 9/17/2009 10:47 PM by Laura - recommend - reply

Jen, Honesty again. A few years into this trade, I was discouraged because it seemed like anyone could whip up a good collection. I think it will increasingly become more and more saturated, as the technology is available (not necessarily a bad thing, just MANY different levels). I think people do hire me for a unique eye, artistry and my honest enjoyment of love, the sacrament of marriage & a wedding day. I think rockstar photographers seduce newbies into the industry, but it won't keep them there. Photographers who don't care will attract people who don't care. Those who care will distinguish themselves & be valued by clients who care. To each his own... Your clients gratefully know you as a photographer who cares.
Posted 9/17/2009 11:46 PM by pamela (site) - recommend - reply

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I wish couples would understand this more so they don't sacrifice they memories.

Jen this was beautifully written ... I can't keep the tears back. Prayers go out to the beautiful family.

Your a very sincere loving person and we have a lot of respect for you Jen.
Never stop caring ...

Miss ya girl ... xoxox
Posted 9/18/2009 12:48 AM by ambiancestudios Xanga Lifetime Member - recommend - reply

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Wow. Just wow. How powerful...and beautiful to see how God is at the center of all your work. My prayers are with Jessy's and her family. That. Is. TOUGH. How grateful they must be for all your pictures of their precious father.


Thank you for addressing the whole "overnight photographer" trend. That is something I have worked to avoid. How I WISH I could go to Bob & Dawn's workshop for Sarah's wedding! All three are such dear people. =)


Thanks for the advice!! I might re-post to FB.

Posted 9/18/2009 10:31 AM by trufflequeen - recommend - reply

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Jen -

Thank you for reminding the photography community of the importance of what we do week in and week out. As one friend said to me recently, "I shoot images that they can be proud of during their memorial service". I too am baffled on things going on in our industry, but you are a great leader in the wedding world and there are many people watching what you happen to do next. Congrats on all your success and thank you for reminding the world why a photographer should be a photographer - to create memories.

Best,

Russ
Posted 9/18/2009 10:34 AM by climieru - recommend - reply

This is a strong post and is definitely a wake-up call. As a photographer I do my best to do a great job for the client and preserve their day beautifully and to the best of my ability. A challenge to keep the importance of the occasion in mind is always welcome.

Is a way to provide brides with exactly what you are speaking of. Maybe an organization that will screen photographers based on a set of criteria and will vouch for their professionalism to potential clients. The organization could also offer opportunities to 'newbies' to build their craft through internships, second-shooting, etc. I don't know if this would be a new organization or something that we could petition WPJA or other established groups for. In a lot of ways it's up to the bride to do her homework but with the number of photographers hitting the scene there needs to be a way to set apart the ones who have put in the time andput up the money to ensure the wedding day is captured well. Also, it would be great to have a bar set so that new photographers will have something to attain and goals to meet.

Just putting some thoughts down in hopes of getting some feedback!
Posted 9/20/2009 9:12 PM by anonymous - recommend - reply

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Jen,
I remember putting my jewelry on in the bathroom on my wedding day and listening to you and my dad chat right outside the door. He was so impressed with your work and the beautiful woman that you are. These pictures will remain in our family forever, you really captured a beautiful last day with my father. I will always miss him and always love that picture of him walking me down the isle. Thank you for honoring my dad in such a beautiful way, thank you for being such an honest woman who lives for Gods glory, and thank you for the beautiful photos that hold such amazing memories of the start of Andrew and my lives together and my last day with my daddy. You are such a blessing.

Jessy (Keane) Malek
Posted 9/27/2009 5:35 PM by jessymalek - recommend - reply

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Jen ~ I was at Jessy and Andrew's wedding.  My husband officiated.  What an honor to be a part of that day.  I had met Shawn a couple of times in AZ when he would come down to visit Jessy, but never really got to talk to him until that magical weekend.  I was astounded when I found he had seated Lincoln and me at their table at the reception.  His kindness and genuineness never ended.  He made everyone in that room feel special.  We were so blessed to have had part of a day with him.  Knowing Jessy, I know the kind of man you'd have to be to have a daughter like that.  She's amazing.  Thank you for capturing their last day together.  It is amazing and not something I will soon forget. 


May God richly bless you photographer business.  You've got a special touch.


Jennifer Murdoch

Posted 9/27/2009 6:50 PM by JenniferMurdoch - recommend - reply


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